Unsolicited “Check DMs” Requests & Private Redirection
Do not publicly or privately tell, ask, pressure, or repeatedly ping another member to “check DMs,” “check requests,” “message me privately,” or move a conversation into DMs unless that person clearly invited or reasonably expects the contact. Silence, a shared server, an open-DM role, or previous conversation is not unlimited permission.
Unexpected DM redirection is a common warning sign because the sending account may be compromised, automated, impersonating someone, or attempting to avoid public scrutiny. It is frequently used for phishing links, token or credential theft, fake giveaways, fraudulent sales, malicious downloads, investment scams, blackmail, harassment, sexual pressure, grooming, and attempts to isolate a potential victim.
Do not hide the purpose of the contact, manufacture urgency, claim that the matter is “too secret” for staff, ask someone to delete messages, or instruct them not to tell a parent, guardian, friend, moderator, or trusted adult. Requests for secrecy, disappearing messages, age checks, private images, gifts, money, account access, or movement to another platform may substantially increase the severity of the case.
Legitimate contact should state its safe, non-sensitive purpose in the appropriate public channel first and allow the recipient to decline. Expected replies between established contacts, delivery of requested non-sensitive information, and staff contact through an approved logged workflow may be permitted, but the recipient’s boundaries and all other rules still apply.
Use tickets or approved support channels for reports, disputes, moderation, account help, transactions, applications, and sensitive server matters. If an unexpected account asks you to check DMs, do not click links, scan QR codes, download files, send codes or private material, or continue under pressure; preserve the message link or screenshot, block the account when appropriate, and report it privately to staff.
Staff may remove the request, warn or restrict the sender, review connected spam or compromise indicators, and escalate immediately where scams, malware, threats, sexual conduct involving minors, grooming, extortion, or credible danger are suspected. Do not publicly investigate or bait the sender for more evidence.